The Defense of Marriage Act is wounded and bleeding: Earlier this year, a federal judge up in Boston found that law, which bans the payment of certain federal benefits to gay couples, violated the Constitution...“No one should have to fight with the government after losing the person she’s loved for more than four decades,” said Donna Lieberman, executive director of the New York Civil Liberties Union. “Edie and Thea made the same lifelong commitment that other married couples make, and their marriage deserves the same dignity, respect and protection afforded other families.